so my friend is having an EXTREMELY bad time ...

[Chip (OP)]

not sure exactly about the rupture point.

i saw him today and he was angry that i walked his partner up (dude's got a heavy load) as he was struggling from exhaustion.

so i left before it got worse, he looked better.

[Cee]

Hi, I just read your post and am sorry to hear that. Seeing someone in pain and you can't do anything for them is just the worst. I hope everything will be OK. ox

[Flutterby]

Sorry this is happening with your friend Chipper, I am sure its very painful and frustrating to watch. You have a good heart.

[Chip (OP)]

GOOD NEWS -- my buddy has bounced back and may be released within a week.

all swelling and psych. issues are under control.

YAY !

[Dhedmo]

Hey Chipper,
good news.
Don't let him think it's over: be sure he gets the  care he needs.
He's lucky to have a friend like you.

[Chip (OP)]

thanks HEAPS but the credit goes to his gay partner - he's the real hero.

[Cee]

That's great news. Happy for all concerned.

[Chip (OP)]

what's even better is that our mutual friend (whom i am closer too by far) is an ex-clinical psychologist and has been able to get our not-so-sick-anymore buddy OUT for 2 hours a day.

the ward is like a prison and isolated from the real world ... the patients MUST suffer cabin fever so my good buddy made sure that he took him home during the walk, too.

the love i have seen flow between these gay friends of mine makes me take gay marriage seriously (yet, THEY don't, ha !) ... until you witness it for yourself, you don't really get to make a proper call.

it was the gays that kindly let me deep into their party subculture and i danced my way into their hearts ... the fun i have had can't fit into words easily. it's about expression, pride, joy, drugs (for me, anyway) and acceptance ... i also call it the GSA (Gay Straight Alliance)

[corlene]

I used to go out partying with my gay buddy all the time!! I've got some of the hottest women ever while out with those boys. Gay dudes always party with amazing chics.

Glad your buddy is doin so well chip, glad there was a positive outcome

[Chip (OP)]

i remember you suggesting that he fight for his health back and he did ... IV vitamins, IV antibiotics and Oral anti-psychotic medications were all used on him.

you were quite optimistic about it and you were right.

a far better outcome than i anticipated.

[corlene]

All you need is some great people on your side and so long as you want to recover you generally will.

I was at a real bad point a year ago, just wanted to give up, it was for the best at the time.

I have a different outlook on life these days tho. I hope your buddy doesn't slip back into all the shit once he's outta the hospital.

Perhaps he should go into a rehab (not drug rehab) a medical place with nurse supervision to make sure he's kept on the right track, medication management etc.

It's not good on the soul being kept under lock and key. I was in a medical rehab for six weeks after my so called medical intervention. Helped me out alot, especially seeing all those who truly couldn't care for themselves because they did give up when they really shouldn't have.

[smfadmin]

the deal is that he will now NOT STOP the PSYCH. MEDS this time and GET PROPER, restorative and regenerative SLEEP, every night ...

i think that is the best deal we can negotiate.