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Title: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Guts on March 31, 2016, 05:19:31 PM
It's been funny watching my parents view on marijuana change so much as the public opinion does... but they're scientists. They've done the research... on .gov sites.

This is not supposed to be some sticky thread or some shit but does ANYONE, like 1 person, actually like their parents? Not in some, they've done some good for me way, but you'd hang out with them as a friend even if they weren't your parents? Or is that why they're your parents?

Like are you supposed to hate your parents? Is that just the way things are supposed to be? Me and my first world problems, huh? I swear they yell "you're not listening!" so loud, that they can't hear anything else.

I feel like a whore... like, at the moment, I have to pretend I like these fucks because I need their money. I know that's sad and pathetic and all of that but that's the way it is. I'll go cry in a different corner now.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: thetalkingasshole on March 31, 2016, 05:23:11 PM
Have some gratitude man!

Or dont, and fuck em

Really though, you owe these people a lot more than the current roof over your head
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Guts on March 31, 2016, 05:25:16 PM
But I still don't really like them...
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: puppy on March 31, 2016, 05:55:24 PM
Your parents are only human...I'd give anything to see my Dad again...I miss him terribly...he was my best bud...my mom...well that's another story...but I do my best to take care of her despite her treatment of me...@Guts you're lucky you have both parents...
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: DeadCat on March 31, 2016, 06:05:39 PM
It's been funny watching my parents view on marijuana change so much as the public opinion does... but they're scientists. They've done the research... on .gov sites.

This is not supposed to be some sticky thread or some shit but does ANYONE, like 1 person, actually like their parents? Not in some, they've done some good for me way, but you'd hang out with them as a friend even if they weren't your parents? Or is that why they're your parents?

Like are you supposed to hate your parents? Is that just the way things are supposed to be? Me and my first world problems, huh? I swear they yell "you're not listening!" so loud, that they can't hear anything else.

I feel like a whore... like, at the moment, I have to pretend I like these fucks because I need their money. I know that's sad and pathetic and all of that but that's the way it is. I'll go cry in a different corner now.

Unless your parents are extremely cool or extremely awful how you feel about them will change quite a bit as you age. When you are little, they are your world, then as a teen they are "dumb old fucks,"  then when you have adult responsibilities and challenges to face and/or kids of your own you see things with more perspective.

Ultimately I think you realize they are like everyone else, flawed human beings doing the best they can with the tools they have in a world that isn't fair.

Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Chip on March 31, 2016, 06:08:11 PM
After much observation I conclude that it's so much easier to form a better relationship with one's parents as you get older.

yes, time fixes it and the generation gap diminishes, especially if you have your own children.

I hope this news cheers you up a bit ... parents usually want what's best for their children and drugs just scares the crap out of them.

things will most likely improve so always leave the door open for them and try to see it from their perspective.

of course, you may even never see eye-to-eye with them but don't lose their respect over it - that's my advice.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: alpha on March 31, 2016, 06:19:21 PM
I have found this to be pretty accurate:

At 4 years my Daddy can do anything.
At 7 years my Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.
At 8 years my Father doesn’t know quite everything.
At 12 years, oh well, naturally Father doesn’t know that either.
At 14 years, Father? Hopelessly old-fashioned.
At 21 years, Oh, that man is out of date. What did you expect?
At 25 years, He knows a little bit about it, but not much.
At 30 years, Maybe we ought to find out what Dad thinks.
At 35 years, A little patience, Let’s get Dad’s assessment before we do anything.
At 50 years, I wonder what Dad would have thought about that. He was pretty smart.
At 60 years, my Dad knew absolutely everything!
At 65 Years, I’d give anything if Dad were here so I could talk this over with him. I really miss that man.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Joseph Hopeless on March 31, 2016, 06:37:41 PM
Yes, I like my parents, namely my mom. I would and do hang out with her from time to time especially when i'm drinking, and we watch a movie or whatever tv show she's into at the time. She's the most giving, selfless parent(human) on the planet as far as i'm concerned. She would give me the last money she had and a ride to cop(with me telling her straight up i'm really sick and can you please help me out)..But at the same time, she was pretty heavy on fentanyl/ocs/opana for many many years and is on subs too, so I guess that changes our dynamic a bit too. But to answer the question, yes, I like my mom more than almost anyone, I would kill myself if it was her life or mine. So yeah, you can have a great parent, but I'm really lucky, but they DO exist.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Esoteric Anhydride on March 31, 2016, 08:14:32 PM


This is not supposed to be some sticky thread or some shit but does ANYONE, like 1 person, actually like their parents? Not in some, they've done some good for me way, but you'd hang out with them as a friend even if they weren't your parents? Or is that why they're your parents?


As long as my dad and I aren't talking about politics, we get a long fine. Teenage years were rough, but I was a little shit and I probably wouldn't have liked me as the son of a 40 yo man, either.

But now my dad and I go to car shows and driving events, and we talk a lot about cars, and we do absolutely have fun hanging out together. I consider myself lucky to have a father that I can share such a deep-set passion with. And although he *usually* keeps it to the track, he's a damned good driver. Long ago ran out of places to put all the trophies (me I still got some room haha).

My mother is an angel. I honestly can't think of anything I'd improve outside of health. She's extremely intelligent, anything she cooks tastes like it was prepared for a King. Not always but most always the family comes to our house for holidays because the food is so damned good. And yeah, I dig hanging out with her. These days it's mostly phone convo, but they tend to last a long while. We can talk about a lot of things for a long time, and we laugh a lot.

I got lucky in the parent department; as long as he's not talking politics (obv. he a repliblitard on a sinking boat).

I got lucky with the family aspect. Got two beautiful little cousins, one went through HS in accelerated programs and is now studying bio-science at a good school; and the other, a little younger; is very precocius but has the talent, the character and the looks to quite possibly make it in performing arts. No joke, at 16 she's drawing a lot of attention to herself, and she's having a blast. Who's to say though, at that age she could change her mind any day, but with the attention she's getting, I'd be surpised if she left it and did something else.

So yeah, biggest problem with my family is me. Not sure why.

Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Zoops on March 31, 2016, 08:18:37 PM
My parents divorced when I was 15. At that same age was when I began experimenting with marijuana, then Rx opiates and alcohol, LSD, everything pretty much.

They are both remarried and have been married for longer than they were married to each other. Dad since 1989, and mom since 1991. I don't see my dad but once or twice a year these days, but I live close to my mother and see her about twice a week. If it weren't for that woman I'd be dead now probably. She has shown me so much selfless love all my life I really can't believe it. I don't take it for granted though.

Until I achieved convicted felon status, my dad and I used to have our fascination with firearms as a bond. We used to shoot together all the time, and he has taught me a lot about guns. We have hunted together several times too. He is currently 'holding' my guns for me, until I get my rights restored, insha'allah. Last time I went to his house, I asked him if I could see my guns. He said, "son, you can't even touch a gun. No." I was dumbfounded. So, he's a bit dickish from time to time, but he's basically a good guy. He's mellowed out a lot in his old age too.

As far as hanging out with them if they weren't my parents, I don't see why I'd be "hanging out" with a 70 year old woman or man if they weren't some family relation.

My mom has gotten a hell of a lot more understanding about my addiction in the last only few months. For example now she knows I use seeds daily, and am on maintenance with it basically. She said she doesn't approve, but that it's better than the alternative, which would undoubtedly be me drinking myself to death.

Dad doesn't know about the seeds use though, and I don't dare tell him. He'd cut me out of the will again if he knew.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Guts on March 31, 2016, 09:20:55 PM
Zoops... always hating on the geriatric... geez man!

I guess there's the other angle... it's me... couldn't be that though lol. I guess if you look at the graphs and statistics, that'd be the case. I'm not quite through yet though...

Me and my father never had a "thing". I wish he liked cars or guns... or anything manly.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Daughter of Dionysus on March 31, 2016, 11:04:26 PM
I DO!!

My Dad is dead
But he and I
Were ALWAYS super close

He didn't like it
When he found out
That I was
Shooting dope

He had no issue
With me taking
Pain pills

He was on oxycontin
For his cancer
And I had had been
On Percocet
For my migraines
And if I ran out
Which I ALWAYS did
He would help me out
By giving me a few of his oxys

He knew I was in pain

Then when
I started doing dope
I told him it was b/c
I was running out of my pills
And didn't want to be taking
Pills from a cancer patient
He believed that
(It was basically true)
He said from then on
We would only have a major problem
If the dope started to interfere with
School
And life in general

My Mom
Is basically the same way
She takes pain pills

Her and I didn't talk
For several (almost 10) years
B/c I didn't like the way
She talked to me
But ever since we fixed it
We get along pretty good
And I actually LIKE my Mom

I don't mind spending time
With her
At all
She loves hero
Which makes a difference

She goes out of her way
To do those typical Mom things
(I think)

Her and I
Even joke around
For example
A week or so ago
We were having a family get together
At the church
Which is right across the street
From a gas station
I was at the gas station
And she was crossing the street
I hollered at her
"You can't come over here cuz you are ugly and your Momma dresses you funny"
She hollered back something crazy
And we were laughing
I felt quite blessed
B/c (I thought to myself)
I don't know many people
Who joke with their parents
Like that

It has taken
My Mom and I
Quite a bit of work
To get to this point
But I can say
I do feel blessed
To have such a cool Mom
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Daughter of Dionysus on March 31, 2016, 11:19:26 PM
I have found this to be pretty accurate:

At 4 years my Daddy can do anything.
At 7 years my Dad knows a lot, a whole lot.
At 8 years my Father doesn’t know quite everything.
At 12 years, oh well, naturally Father doesn’t know that either.
At 14 years, Father? Hopelessly old-fashioned.
At 21 years, Oh, that man is out of date. What did you expect?
At 25 years, He knows a little bit about it, but not much.
At 30 years, Maybe we ought to find out what Dad thinks.
At 35 years, A little patience, Let’s get Dad’s assessment before we do anything.
At 50 years, I wonder what Dad would have thought about that. He was pretty smart.
At 60 years, my Dad knew absolutely everything!
At 65 Years, I’d give anything if Dad were here so I could talk this over with him. I really miss that man.

That is so great
And pretty much sums up
The relationship a lot of us
Have with our parents
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Mimi on April 01, 2016, 03:21:25 AM
I always got along with both of my parents.

They were the kind of people I would have been friends with if we weren't related.

My only regrets (they are both dead) are all the things I now wish I would have said/done - the things
we never talked about.

Big mistake not to realize that people you love and care about likely won't be around forever.....
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: DeadCat on April 01, 2016, 03:53:40 AM
I DO!!

My Dad is dead
But he and I
Were ALWAYS super close

He didn't like it
When he found out
That I was
Shooting dope

He had no issue
With me taking
Pain pills

He was on oxycontin
For his cancer
And I had had been
On Percocet
For my migraines
And if I ran out
Which I ALWAYS did
He would help me out
By giving me a few of his oxys

He knew I was in pain

Then when
I started doing dope
I told him it was b/c
I was running out of my pills
And didn't want to be taking
Pills from a cancer patient
He believed that
(It was basically true)
He said from then on
We would only have a major problem
If the dope started to interfere with
School
And life in general

My Mom
Is basically the same way
She takes pain pills

Her and I didn't talk
For several (almost 10) years
B/c I didn't like the way
She talked to me
But ever since we fixed it
We get along pretty good
And I actually LIKE my Mom

I don't mind spending time
With her
At all
She loves hero
Which makes a difference

She goes out of her way
To do those typical Mom things
(I think)

Her and I
Even joke around
For example
A week or so ago
We were having a family get together
At the church
Which is right across the street
From a gas station
I was at the gas station
And she was crossing the street
I hollered at her
"You can't come over here cuz you are ugly and your Momma dresses you funny"
She hollered back something crazy
And we were laughing
I felt quite blessed
B/c (I thought to myself)
I don't know many people
Who joke with their parents
Like that

It has taken
My Mom and I
Quite a bit of work
To get to this point
But I can say
I do feel blessed
To have such a cool Mom

The apple does not falll far from the tree.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Daughter of Dionysus on April 01, 2016, 06:02:43 AM
The apple does not falll far from the tree.

@DeadCat

So
You're saying
I'm ugly and my Momma dresses me funny??

Gee thanx
😝
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Delta9Tetra on April 01, 2016, 09:55:55 AM
Last time I spoke to my mother, she was throwing coffee mugs at me telling me quite vividly how she would have been happier to raise a murderer or a rapist.

Be thankful if you have semi-decent folks. I truly envy people who grew up/continue with that kind of love and support..

Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Smacky-Doodle 2.0 on April 01, 2016, 10:55:16 AM
Sadly no......haven't really spoken to them much since the 'Im on MMT' talk.  I'm of the opinion that it's better left unsaid, unless they are paying for it or taking you to the klinik.

Gonna go cry for a minute, BRB.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: puppy on April 01, 2016, 01:57:23 PM
Sorry @Delta9Tetra ....you reminded me...my mom would throw the hot coffee first...then the mug lol...but that was many moons ago...when I was a teen...
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: neighbor on April 01, 2016, 05:06:00 PM
try to get a long with your parents. even if its just a message on a holiday. I understand some parents are extremely irrational especially given who we are and what we enjoy doing but they are still your parents and it will still probably hurt tremendously to lose them even if you cant possibly imagine it.

I know of a few people who were not on speaking terms with their parents for years when they suddenly didnt have them anymore and became overwhelmed with the grief of not trying to repair things while they had the chance.

I envy you guys who still have a parent to throw things at you



Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: Delta9Tetra on April 02, 2016, 04:35:19 PM
@puppy Yeah its a hard knock life huh  :P. Your mom with the coffee reminded me of a story of when I was a teen about 14
and my mother was hitting me with a wooden spoon, over my head. When the spoon finally broke she looked down at the broken piece
and then used the jagged piece left in her hand to 'stab at thee' [moby dick reference] while screaming how I had just broken her good spoon.
Ahh Family. Good Times.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: hanna on April 08, 2016, 11:29:48 PM
My Mom died a long time ago, she was an absent Mom, got clingy as she aged and wanted too much from her kids in relation to what she provided early in our lives.

Dad was everything to us, he was a WWII vet, he loved guns, cars, music, instilled love for the world in us and raised us to be independent. Not a day goes buy I don't think of him and smile, or shed a tear.
Title: Re: Do you get along with your parents?
Post by: DiCaprio on April 17, 2016, 03:43:34 PM
Wow, its awesome to see everyones stories and watch how easily you guys can all open up and get pretty deep. Makes me feel emotionally stunted or some shit. I dont have anything that deep. My dad was the big dog that didnt let anything slide and my mom was the awesome super sweet lady that I went to when dad was being mean lol. Thats about it. He was an alchy so maybe I just try to block some of it out. Cool as heck to get that type of insight into people relationships though. Never ran across a forum where emotions flow with such ease.
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